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A Boundary Story: She Stuffed The Anger and Her Own Feelings
I want to share a boundary story that a friend told me recently. Like the rest of us, my friend has been on quarantine lockdown for weeks, running a household, raising two little kids, wrestling with the homeschool phenomenon, and working from home. The other morning, she was putting the finishing touches on breakfast for…
A Virus Woke Us Up: Now What?
I must admit I was asleep at the wheel. Let me be clear, the things that matter to me have had my full attention. For those of you who have spent five minutes with me, you know that I’m an awareness pusher. It’s my thing. But as the global pandemic crept toward California, it stayed…
Reclaiming Leadership: A Crucible for Women
The alarm clock of change is buzzing. We’ve been pressing snooze. At first, the seven minute intervals of sleep were warm and cozy and delicious. But not so much anymore. We’re annoyed, even angry. It’s time to wake up! There are significant turning points in our culture when we can see our human development and…
World’s Okayest Mom
I’m done with this “beautiful mess” crap. I’m over the exquisite authenticity of it all. If I hear one more vulnerable-manifestation-of-this or conscious-intention-of-that, I may find a pack a wolves and run off with them. I write this after 20 days with very little solitude and the absence of my structured life, a schedule of…
Disheartened and Dragging
Dear Sally: It seems like I can’t find the gas pedal in so many parts of my life. I can’t get my kids out of the house in the morning. I call my dogs and they barely pick their heads up. I get to work and the people I manage are operating at a snail’s…
Are You an Emotional Butler?
Maybe you consider yourself a people person. You’re someone who just loves doing nice things for others, favors, listening to problems, or finding ways to include the odd man out. Or perhaps you find yourself in a peacekeeping role, righting the ship, and calming down the storm so the heated meeting or friend group drama…
Are You a Contortionist?
Dear Sally, I’m in a tight spot. That’s actually how it feels. Like I’m trapped. I’m in a work role that feels very constraining. There are missing pieces of our workflow and our structure and things fall through the cracks. No one on the team seems to notice the problem yet everyone complains about the…
Emotional Garbage: The Practice of Coping
In the mornings, I leave the ranch with my dogs and walk through the valley and the hilly neighborhoods above our property. We love the safe confines of the ranch, but it’s good for us to interact with the world outside of our fences. The other day, as we were hitting our stride, I noticed…
From Voluncheerful to Voluntearful
Dear Sally, I say yes to everything. I say YES with my mouth but NO with my heart. When someone invites me to a meeting, I squeeze it into my calendar. If I get an email late at night, I feel like I need to respond. I’m on committees and sub-committees, task force groups and…
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Your Guide to Radical Self-Care
Do you live with an underlying belief that your self-care comes last? Wake up to the empowering practice of listening to your needs. You will become more resilient, less stressed, more supported, and you will feel more ease in your life. Discover this and more in the free self-care guide:
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